Dr. Lam sees people who come to therapy in order to make a change. The change could be an increase in their self confidence, personal growth, the joy, the richness, or the understanding of their lives. It could be to have a better relationship with themselves and others. It could also be to lead a healthier, more successful, productive, challenging, fulfilling life or simply to become more satisfied in general.
Dr. Lam's role as a psychologist is to facilitate the change people want, not to change people. In this aspect, he holds a humanistic view and believes that we are capable of making significant changes in our lives.
It is within us to find alternatives in life, to explore, to achieve, and to lead balanced lives within ourselves and in the world.
Serving as obstacles to these changes are our experiences from the past, crippling beliefs that we presently hold, or our fears for the future.
People who recognize the discrepancy of where they are with where they want to be, describe the state as being trapped, stuck in a rut, out of control, disconnected, restricted. Feelings of shame, guilt, fear, sadness, hopelessness, and anger are quite common. It is the responsibility of a psychologist, a counsellor, or a therapist to provide a safe and confidential therapeutic environment for people to find a way out of this predicament.